How To Handle A Social Media Breakup?

A breakup or separation from a couple can become a real crisis for people. As much as they don’t express it, there is pain and they need time to regain their emotional balance. Not knowing how to handle the breakup on social media can make coping more difficult.

For this reason, we must be aware of handling the break in social networks with total respect and care for themselves. It is necessary, immediately, to  control the instincts that lead to read each publication of the former partner. You should not be tempted to spy on profiles, review old photos or read each new comment from the former partner if you do not want to get hurt more.

Social Media Rupture: A Parallel Separation?

When the relationship has reached its end point, each one goes his own way. The most common is that there is one member more convinced of the decision than another. It may even happen that the person who had the initiative to end the bond has grieved during the months prior to the breakup.

Social networks appear in this situation playing a very important role. Some use them as a great virtual spy method. They turn them into tools to stay informed of the life of the other, that being that they still remember with love.

Instead, others see them as a means of communication that they will no longer use with that person who has been erased from their life. The truth is that it is necessary to take a firm position in the use of networks, as important as if another parallel separation were carried out.

Ideally, do it right away and find the way that does the least harm to both of you, as love and hate immediately echo through a simple click.

What to do with social media during the breakup?

1. Don’t share new posts with your ex

If you have just broken up with your partner, it  is likely that your profile will find different photos where you are together. Last year’s holidays, an anniversary or Valentine’s Day celebrations are among the best memories.

Deleting all memories can be a bit aggressive and denial. Although anger or frustration can push them to erase the past, it is also true that they are happy moments that they have lived together. Both of you should know that the past will be in your memory, regardless of social media.

It cannot be argued that each one is the owner of handling the situation as they feel, but the advice is  not to share with the ex the publications that are made after the breakup.

2. Don’t comment on your ex’s new posts

Being aware of the publications of the former couple and all their friends on the networks can become an addiction. The desire to know in detail each of your movements and relationships can become unhealthy.

Where does he go out, what time does he connect, who he is with and countless doubts begin to arise. Those who are overcome by anxiety comment on each photo trying to show that they have overcome it.

It is a terrible mistake because they cannot end the bond and only provoke in the other a feeling of being persecuted. If you want to win back that person’s heart, stalking them is virtually the worst of all ideas.

3. Avoid sharing the details of the breakup

Compulsive writing in each social network about the pain that person caused them, definitely, does not help to heal. The most hurt believe they are victims of the situation and hope to obtain a kind of virtual justice. In his thinking, the culprit must be discovered and the people around him must be alert so as not to be harmed.

It’s another way of being anchored in a relationship that didn’t work out. And it is that you cannot “take off”, from the emotional point of view, when you still harbor resentment or revenge.

The break in social networks should complement the real separation, they are not two different stories. Therefore, it is necessary to take the necessary measures to avoid falling into a vicious circle from which they will not be able to get out.

The necessary measures are:

• Block the ex until you are sure of his feelings.
• Avoid becoming amateur detectives by searching profiles of mutual friends.
• Say goodbye to comments on memories of the past.

Reflection

Ending on good or bad terms is one more circumstance of that love that was lived. What is relevant is learning to say goodbye to the past with absolute respect for that shared love.

You must never lose your dignity; you have to respect yourself, both yourself and the other person. Sometimes impulsiveness and emotions can play tricks.

Finally, highlight that it is important to remain calm, ask for the help you need, talk, share. There are some moments when it seems that everything is going to collapse, but time will help you to see everything differently. In the end it will not be more than one more experience.